Question: I know I have trust issues and I am worried about carrying them into a new relationship. What is the best way to get over this issue and what can I do to get past them? Help!
Answer: Since you realize what you are doing, you should have some control on not doing it. It is not enough to just say that you have these issues and that you are not sure how to deal with them and repeat the same actions that you have in the past. It is kind of like the old joke when you tell the doctor that it hurts when you bend your arm and he says “then don’t bend your arm.” If you know you are doing it, don’t do it.
Many times just trying not to do it is not enough and therapy is needed. Unfortunately, therapy is something that is looked down upon in the United States, but is something that many more people need than will admit to. If you feel like this is you then do not hesitate in seeking the medical attention that you need in order to deal with our issues and move on with life. Both individual and group therapy have been proven to have amazing results for therapy patients. This is a avenue that you should consider if your trust issues are not something that you are able to deal with alone.